I thought I would of had the support of my adoption life group when I got home. There were 3 of us who all brought home kids within 1 month of each other, and it was determined to not undermine the attachment process, the women would meet one week, and the men would meet the next week. I was told that I could NOT bring my kids on the woman's week, but that it would be detrimental to Dasha if I hired a babysitter so I could attend. I got no help from the group that I desperately needed at that time. Not many people's husbands work 24 hour shifts, it is a unique situation. My sister and I were on the outs, and though I love my parents to death they didn't understand adopting a child.
I was all alone, crying at every moment that my kids weren't around, and praying for help. I decided to email the only person that knew what I was going through. She may not know it but she helped me more than I could ever imagine. Those emails back and forth were my saving grace from someone who had "been there, done that." I also called some my close friends from back in college who also are the TRUE friends that everyone wishes for. The ones that even though you haven't talked to in years, they will drop everything for you.
Over the months things really started to improve, Dasha and I definitely formed a bond, and are nicely attached now, and I truly can't even picture our loves without her anymore. I know she was meant to be in our family. We defiantly have our moments, but what parent/child relationship doesn't. Please don't let my experience deter you from adoption, if it helps, I also went through the baby blues after Camden was born, so for me MAJOR life changes affect me pretty significantly. But I made it through it. I also have made changes in my life. I don't wait for people to include me, I seek out my friends, I plan stuff, something that is HUGE for me. I am a very shy person, and I don't have a lot of self confidence. I am trying to stay positive and I have even started making strides to improve my relationship with my sister.
I also know that without God, and my special email friend, I really don't know where I would be without them.
This is my favorite picture of the two of us.