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Sunday, February 13, 2011

Warning: Rant Ahead

I am not responsible if you are offended by my words after this line.  You have been warned.

So I am at church and volunteering in the nursery and one of the workers was asking about our adoption.  I said that things have been slowed down a lot by what has happened, aka. Torri Hansen and the latest mom on Dr. Phil.  Another lady working asked what was so wrong about Torri Hansen sending her son back, she DID have someone meet him at the airport.  Children fly alone all the time.  My mouth about hit the floor at this point.  I was like ARE YOU SERIOUS!  I said well first of all it was illegal, she lied to the airline about his age, plus it was not like a grandparent meeting him at the airport, a STRANGER!  Who knows what would of happened if this guy was not a good guy.  Then I said that if it was okay for her to do that, then it would be ok for me to put my bio. son on an airplane and send him to Washington D.C. with a note pinned on him saying I didn't want him any more.  She said no, that is different.  I asked why, and she was like well he was adopted.  I was about ready to LOSE it.  Luckily the director of the children's program came in and asked me to move rooms because they were short handed in another room.  That was a big move from God there because I don't think the next words out of my mouth would of been very christian like.

Adoption is hard, there are trials with raising a child that has been raised in an institution, no matter what age.  That by no means that they are NOT your children when you adopt them.  They get the same rights that your bio. children do.  If there is a problem you deal with it, if you can't you take the right channels to end the adoption.  You do NOT put a 7 year old on a Trans-Atlantic flight back to his home country with a note pinned to him saying you don't want him anymore.  People need to truly need to be educated on adoption and the trials that these children are going through.  They grieve when they come to America, we have taken them from what they know, we put them in a strange environment with a strange language.  We need to be advocates for these children. 

Ok, I am done now.  Sorry for the rant.
Denise

7 comments:

  1. adoption or bio.... I have a 7yr old and I would NEVER send him on an airplane alone, wouldn't happen!

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  2. I dont understand how that woman could do that..it astounded me and now for the rest of the boys life hell know he was abandoned again..i thik she should never be able to adopt again..and i know several people who have been affected by her actions and the countless people who are still be affected..its terrible..

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  3. Some people will never get it!

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  4. And if people choose not to be educated on adoption, which is fine, then they need to not comment.

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  5. That is horrible! Gosh, such ignorance people have. I also love it when people (mind you, they have not been through the whole adoption experience and what has been drilled into us about attachment and feelings of loss when they come home with us) say to me, "Oh, she was too young to remember any of it." I disagree. She knows loss. She may not remember exactly, but I know she knows loss. Grhh!

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  6. Some people are ignorant. Why you would have to explain what was wrong with what Torri Hansen did to anyone is beyond my understanding. Good you didn't waste any more time speaking to this person. Maybe you gave her some food for thought,

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