Well we are 1 month into Randy's new work schedule, and it has been different to say the least. Randy is exhausted to be quite blunt, and Camden and I miss him a lot. But it is only for a year, hopefully!
As far as the adoption goes, I am not really sure where we are, on Thursday we were told to expect to wait another 12 months before a referral. Yep you heard me right, another 12 months. I was ready to jump ship that day. I guess the region that we were assigned, yes they did give out a referral, but they have not given that family travel dates. I guess that region has decided that the agreement that was signed was not good enough, and now they are waiting on the DUMA, don't know if that is spelled correctly, to sign the agreement into law. Now we are talking government here people, it took the US and Russia, over a year to sign the original agreement. So we were told no referrals and no travel dates until the agreement is law. We are technically locked into this region, with not really a way out. I was afraid of this when we were originally assigned to this region. I was very skeptical that we would actually get a referral from them, followed by travel dates.
So here is the scenario, leave the agency, lose the $5,000 that we paid them, go to Agency B who said we can have a referral in about 3-4 months, Agency B is about $7,000 more than Agency A, for 1 child, and we can not afford agency B's sibling price, it is OUTRAGEOUS!!! Followed by another adoption a year or so after this one is finished. Out $12,000, plus the cost of another adoption down the road.
Or stick with this current agency, and just wait it out, get our siblings, whenever, and never mention the word adoption again. Personally I HATE both options. I am done. If I wanted to wait 4-5 years to finish an adoption, I would of applied to China. I picked Russia because they were suppose to be fast, then that horrible woman in TN did her thing. I am not sure what direction we are going. Please pray. Also, if you are local to us or family, it would really help me out if, instead of asking how the adoption is going, please just say that you are praying for us. It is just too hard to bring up the subject over and over. Also, I encourage you to check in to the blog. Don't want to be rude about it, but it just hurts to talk about it.
A Year of Change
2 years ago
I dont understand russia i know alot of people who have adopted special needs kiddies and it hasnt been that long is it different???
ReplyDeleteYou are in my thoughts.... often. I am not sure which agency you are with or which region they have "assigned" you to, but I will tell you that even AFTER Torrey Hansen my referral came in two weeks, and my son was home within 5 months. While not typical and not meant to frustrate you, you should NOT have to wait that long. I'd call another agency... you mentioned you have, but it's not too late.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry! My heart breaks for you! I pray for a miracle and you can bring your children home! ~Melissa Mendez
ReplyDeletePraying continuously! Lesley
ReplyDeleteI am saying a prayer for you NOW!
ReplyDeleteWe are praying the God's strength will fill you with joy each day as you await GOD's solution to this situation. And may God provide peace as you wait. You continue to be in our thoughts and prayers.
ReplyDeleteReine
12 months! Ugh. Even on a sibling registry? Seems nuts. You need a better connected agency, but that comes with such a loss of $$. I know I would never have been able to convince my husband of such things. Honestly, I think the only way to speed it up (if that's the goal) is to say you are open to either gender. Girls are so popular and in many cases boys are just waiting...at least that's how it was with our agency. But if your hearts are set on a girl, she will come. Prayers for you, your family, the journey, and your agency.
ReplyDeleteI would change agency to a better connected one. This agency is obviously stringing you along. Sorry to be so blunt, but it hurts to hear how they are breaking your heart. Plenty of families with other agencies are bringing their babies home even after the "issues".
ReplyDeleteAlso be open to either gender.