Randy and I have officially applied to another agency as of today. I mailed off the application about an hour ago to be exact. After many talks with our current agency, it was looking at minimum of 12 months to a referral, and then up to 18 months to be home. That just doesn't fly with us any more.
You have to understand, when we started we were told 12-18 months from start to finish. We are now in month 20 from the start, with the possibility another 18 months to finish we were finished with agency A, kinda. I will let you know why the kinda in a moment.
So on to Agency B, between Randy and I we called and spoke to 5 agency's in the past week. ALL of them were appalled at the wait we have had and were expecting. Also, they were confused about why our agency told us to only apply for sibling sets up to the age of 3. Their minimums are age of 5 for sibling sets because unless the set was taken from their parents, or parents turned them over to the orphanage right after the youngest was born, it is almost impossible to get a referral of two siblings that young. When they explained this it really made sense, since the children have to be in the Russian database for 8 months before they are available for international adoption. That is the second reason we are kinda leaving.
So now on to agency B, where the director actually had to TURN AWAY a girl referral last week because he didn't have any one to adopt her!!!!!!!!!!!!! OUTRAGE!!! If only we had called two weeks ago! So now we are on the fast track, there may be a few things that we need to change with our home study, because we are raising our age limit, and with Randy's new job at the hospital. This agency doesn't see why we won't be traveling in the next 3-6 months.
Now to the kinda part. Our paperwork doesn't expire with Agency A until April. So we are keeping our file with them active until April. We are willing to risk the Agency fee with agency B, to have both hands in the cookie jar so to speak. It is perfectly legal and nothing morally wrong with this. So, we have now just have to be a little bit more patient.
Another thing I like about Agency B is that we do a mini dossier, like 10 documents, and then we hand carry Dossier 2 to Russia with us on Trip 1, to expediate the court date. With agency A, we had to do about 30 documents, which we have to redo every year, and then when we get home from trip 1 we then tackle Dossier 2 which has an additional 10 documents to Dossier 1, and oh yes, we have to redo everything in Dossier 1 again! So needless to say, we are very happy and ready to go. Oh yes, we are also on the wait list from the moment he gets our application, unlike agency A where you only get on the wait list when you turn in your dossier 1.
A Year of Change
2 years ago
Congrats!! I have followed your blog for awhile and am a fellow FTIAer. What region were you assigned to in Russia?! And I think things there are going longer in all programs. Our last adoption was China and it seems that other agencies had a faster turn around than FTIA. Do you mind to let me know what agency B is?! You can email me privately if you want.
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Thanks!!
Good for you!!! It's a HARD decision to make, but I was really frustrated for you. Things should really start to move now :)
ReplyDeleteSo glad to hear this! I know this wait has been so hard for you - I can't wait to see pictures of you guys with your new LO(s) in your arms.
ReplyDeleteFantastic. Really happy for your family. Hopefully things move smoothly. Love the idea of bringing Dossier #2 with you. A brilliant savings of time and shipping costs.
ReplyDeleteYeah! I'm so glad you made this choice. You guys started out about the same time as we did, and it's just wrong you haven't completed your adoption yet. Sounds like you have a "connected" agency and might be traveling shortly!
ReplyDeleteHope things go better. Looking forward to hearing about your referral.
ReplyDeleteI will pray things start to go more smoothly. Our agency has also encouraged us to be prepared to jump into dossier 2 and bring te docs with us to expidite the time between trips. :)
ReplyDeleteYeah! I'm so happy to read this. I've been praying for yall. I hope you hear something soon!!
ReplyDeleteHappy to here the good news. I am still praying. Lesley
ReplyDeleteInteresting info....I am also a fellow pending adoptive parent for Russia.......some of what you noted is the same some is different. Ours does list up to the age of 5......and we didn't get registered until dossier was complete..........but the timing thing.......seems everywhere I read the timing seems the same for everyone except those from other contries? I will be following along and wish you fast travels!
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Hi! My husband and I are hoping to adopt from Russia and were referred to your blog because we are considering "Agency A". If at all possible, would you be willing to talk to us about your experiences with Agency A and the differences you are seeing now with Agency B? My email address is healthyheart1026@gmail.com. Thank you soo much!
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