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Wednesday, March 16, 2011

100th Post

I purposefully have not been blogging because I saw that we were at 99 posts and I wanted to save the 100th post for great news.  The news I have is bittersweet. 

On Monday March 7th, I got a call from our coordinator which I thought was weird, but thought it might have to do with us switching home study agencies.  Well she was reading our home study and saw that were were approved for two children, and she just happened to have two children, a sibling pair that needed a home.  A boy and a girl.  Well of course Randy was at work, so I asked if we could call her back tomorrow.  So I called Randy and we discussed and decided on Tuesday that we would accept the referral. 

We got all the info that day and man are they beautiful children.  We submitted our information to Dr. Dana Johnson out of the University of Minnesota, they have a great system up there, all information is submitted online with donations.  There is a suggested donation, but no set fee.  We thought we might get the news by Friday.  Wednesday we got the medical info. back.  The boy is perfect, the little girl, there were some concerns.  So he asked if we would get some more information from Russia.  Well we got all the info. back today from Russia, submitted it, and within an hour we had our answer. 

Sadly we had to decline this sibling pair.  There were some very serious signs that she would have a very hard life, and would not be independent as an adult.  It breaks my heart to have to turn down these two beautiful children, but it would be more than we could handle.  Going from 1 child to 3 would be hard enough without other factors added on.

The bittersweet part is, Randy and I have prayed about it and we have decided to stay on the sibling list.  Rather than go back to the single girl, we are at the top of the list for siblings, so now any day we could get another referral, and we will get the right children for our family.  Though we still want a girl, so it would have to be a boy/girl, or sisters situation.  Please pray for these children that they find the right home, and pray for us as our hearts are broken over having to turn down these two.

10 comments:

  1. I'm so sorry. That must be heartbreaking. But remember the devil usually offers 'his best' before God offers HIS best... hang in there! Obviously the timing is going to be perfect when it finally happens.

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  2. Denise, I am so sorry. I know that heartache too; it is so difficult. That is exciting though that you've decided to opt for siblings and are at the top of the list! What a big change that will mean for your family and you get to be blessing to 2 children instead of just one! :)

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  3. We will be praying. God has and always have those babies in His hands! <3

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  4. michelle loewensteinMarch 16, 2011 at 2:36 PM

    Denise
    Sorry you had to make such a hard decision. The right children for your family will come!

    Michelle Loewenstein

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  5. I'm sorry that you had to turn this sibling pair down, but I'm excited that your new children (children!!!) are hopefully right there on the horizon.

    Exciting times ahead.

    Jen

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  6. Ya for being at the top of the list! Prayers that you get referrals soon. What is your sibling age range? Do they have to both be older than your son or younger or will he possible become a middle child? Just wondering. Enjoy this lovely KC weather.

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  7. I know how difficult it is to turn down a referral. We had to turn one down from home and another while in country. I still think about those babies and pray they found homes.

    The baby/babies meant for you will find you :) Hoping you hear something soon.

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  8. Trisha, we are ok with the older of the siblings being a little older than Camden, it would be more like "artificial twinning" than a true middle child. Either way one child is going to have a birth order redo. Either Camden, or the older of the two siblings.

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  9. It's so hard to make decisions like these. :-( Praying that God bring another sibling group for you soon.

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